How to Break the Self-Betrayal Habit

Are you looking for validation from others?

Do you have a hard time trusting in yourself?

Seeking validation from others is a common behavior that can stem from your early interactions with your parents. As a child, you naturally sought recognition and approval from your parents when you accomplished something.

As a child, you didn’t always know what you liked or disliked. You tried to fit in, in ways that didn’t reflect who you were. You wanted to be accepted. You wanted to be loved.

However, if your parents were emotionally unavailable or didn't provide the validation you needed, you may have learned to compromise your own needs and desires to please them.

This pattern can persist into adulthood, where you continue to seek validation from others rather than trusting and honoring yourself.

The self- betrayal pattern/habit carries on into our adult life as:

- Feeling stuck

- Ending up in relationships with people who betray themselves and you

- A constant need for approval

- Saying Yes when you want to say no

- Feeling resentment toward people

- Trying to get everyone to like you

- Not speaking up when things are bothering you

- Second guessing yourself

Our parents were there to help us navigate this world, but if we had emotionally unavailable parents we learned to abandon ourselves to please them.

The cycle of seeking validation from others can be detrimental to your self-trust and hinder your ability follow your intuition and to live authentically. It's important to recognize and break free from this pattern by trusting yourself, pursuing your own dreams and desires, and not depending on the approval or validation of others.

When you rely on the opinions and decisions of others, you risk losing sight of your own desires and dreams. It is important to take ownership of your lives and make choices that align with your values and aspirations.

Your needs are important

By recognizing and acknowledging that your needs are important, you can begin to prioritize yourself and make choices that align with your true desires and set the necessary boundaries.

This self-awareness allows you to break free from the habit of self-betrayal and start cultivating a healthier and more authentic relationship with yourself and others.

How to break the pattern/habit

1) awareness, take the time to identify your needs

2) be mindful how you share these needs with others

3) commit to one small action step

It is important to develop a healthy sense of self-worth that is not reliant on external validation. If you struggle with this, find out more in my free offer. Click here, schedule your free call today.